Everyone loves holidays. They are a time to spend with your nearest and dearest, to eat, love and share gifts. With all the build-up and excitement, this can make the holidays a time of stress and anxiety as parents attempt to negotiate who the children will spend those special occasions with and how they can be shared. Though we love to spend time with children on the holidays, those occasions are fun ‘because’ of the children so it is important not to take the fun out of the holiday by engaging in conflict.
If you and the other parent are having trouble coming to an agreement about how to share the holiday, perhaps consider a special ‘season’ instead of ‘day’. What about an alternating schedule where one parent celebrate with the children on Christmas Day and one on Boxing Day? Consider it as a utilisation of the extended holiday season and present in in a manner that suggests how lucky the children are to have two Christmas days instead of one.
In working out how to share the children’s time between you, start your negotiations with the other parent well ahead of the holidays. It is of the utmost importance to keep the children removed from the negotiation process and to do your very best to not discuss the arrangements within the hearing or presence of the children or to allow them to become a message carrier between the parents. If the child becomes part of the negotiations, they may become stressed and anxious in the lead up to holiday time and may even begin to dislike holidays altogether.
If parents are finding it difficult to reach an agreement, they may contact Relationships Australia to facilitate a Family Dispute Resolution Conference (mediation) or they may arrange a private mediation. If you are seeking some advice to help you come up with a plan or some support to negotiate a holiday schedule, contact Marino Lawyers for an appointment.